Friday, May 18, 2012

Why You Need To Tell The Universe EXACTLY What You Want (and exactly what you're not okay with)

by Sarah Davis

If you want something, ask for it. 

Some of the best spiritual advice that I've ever absorbed is to either be hot or cold, but never lukewarm.  Because when you are lukewarm, you aren't standing firmly anywhere, you are lingering.  When you don't know what you want, how will you ever get it? 

Okay, let's put this topic into perspective, if you are a little lost.  Imagine yourself standing at the counter at Starbucks.  The barista has just asked you what you would like to order and you stand there, lukewarm.  Your response is, "Oh, I don't know. Just give me whatever you think I deserve."  In theory, the Universe (or the barista) might give you something you like, but she  or he might also give you some of the worst bullshit coffee you've ever had.  

Whenever you are praying, it's important to have an order ready for God.  If you have no ambition to do anything and each day, you say to the Universe, "Oh, I'll just take whatever comes along", you will get whatever comes along.  If you are familiar with The Secret (or now The Power and The Magic), the main idea of these books is visualizing exactly what you want and manifesting it to happen.  Knowing exactly what you want is SO important in life.  If you don't know, you need some idea of what you want.  There are so many currents in life, not all positive, that can sweep you away if you are lukewarm in what you want.  

Some of us might think, "God knows me" so something good will come along because God just knows.  However, I think God wants you to be passionate in what you want. I know that in my own life, I write every day.  It's the only thing that makes me feel like a complete human being some days.  If I don't actively study other literature, do boring things like skim the thesaurus with my morning coffee, and write every day, I can't really expect God to reward me as a writer.  That's me, clearly shouting to the Universe, that I am a writer and I will do what it takes to be a good one.  If I were to wake up and say, "Eh, it would be okay to become a writer one day, but I probably wouldn't succeed anyway so I'll try to write something in a few years" get my drift, right? God didn't create you to be a lukewarm person who is afraid to speak up, he created you to be passionate about something.  

I think this topic is especially important for women, because women tend to not always feel as entitled to speak up and clearly say what they want.  Women tend to think that if they pursue the things they want, it's selfish or it is silly because there is someone else out there who deserves it more.  However, think about yourself at Starbucks, once again.  You are a paying customer who is entitled to anything on the menu, as long as you have the money for it.  In life, you are a paying customer.  You are alive, so you have the currency you need, and if you do not clearly ask for the things you want, you might not get them.  This is true of work, relationships, and on a deeper note, like I've mentioned above, in prayer and spirituality.  You need to be clear about what it is you're after.

Another issue that being hot or cold directly relates to is clearly saying NO to things you know do not belong in your life.  If you are lukewarm to highly negative and destructive things, they WILL weed their way into your life, which can harm you.  

1 comment:

  1. Hi Sarah,
    I think it's great that you're a very ambitious woman and you know exactly what you want. But what about those of us that don't really know?
    What about those of us that don't value the traditional notions of success? What about those of us that put others needs above our own wants? I think there is also merit in being open to new and unexpected experiences, good and bad.

    Saying NO to things you 'know' don't belong in your life just advocates being overly judgmental, closed to new experiences, and closes you off to learning to deal with the bad. Sometimes bad things happen that you really have no choice about. Everyone can find examples of this in their own life.

    The universe isn't at all like a Starbucks with God as its barista. You can't choose the conditions into which you are born. What would you say to orphaned starving children, the forgotten homeless, or someone on the verge of death with a terminal illness? Would you tell them to just say 'NO' to hunger? ...To pancreatic cancer? Would you tell them to be more direct with God when they pray?

    I think this highlights one major problem with the positive thinking movement. It leads to victim blaming. When things don't work out, despite all the effort you put into praying, projecting or whatever, you are only left with yourself to blame... which is wrong.

    It's an ideology for the privileged and comfortable and I believe that this is what is so seductive about it.

    If you're open to the idea of reading an insightful discussion of the subject I would suggest the book "Bright-Sided" by Barbara Ehrenreich.


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