Wednesday, May 30, 2012

True Blood Returning to HBO for Season 5 in Early June

by Sarah Davis

Cannot wait for "True Blood" Season 5

Get ready, it's almost time to hear Bill Compton (Stephen Moyer) say "Soo-keh" all summer long.

I don't know about you, but one of my favorite parts of summer is all of the amazing television shows.  One show in particular (my absolute favorite show) is True Blood, which is returning in just two short weeks.  That's right, it is coming back on June 10 on HBO.  There are so many hot topics in the news to cover right now, but this takes precedence.  Hello, this show is coming back. Is Tara dead? Russel Edgington is back and Reverend Newlin is back as a vampire? So many questions.

True Blood loves leaving each season off with the most intense cliffhangers, so all year long, I have been wondering what these characters are up to.  When we left off, Jason and Jessica were debating on if they should try a relationship out (they played Taylor Swift in the background, which was sort of weird but I guess okay since Jessica always had her CD laying around), Debbie came and shot Tara in the head and Sookie got her back by shooting her in the head, Steve Newlin showed up at Jason's door with fangs, and Sookie told both Eric and Bill to take a hike (possibly considering Alcide [Joe Manganiello] as her new beau).  (Editor's Note: Pardon that incredibly out-of-control run-on sentence, but I felt it totally necessary.)

From the looks of the two trailers that HBO has released so far, the show looks like it is going to be a lot darker than it has been. Sookie (Anna Paquin) looks a little more at her wit's end than ever before. It isn't clear if Tara is going to live or die, although her picture is all over the promo posters and there hasn't been any news of Rutina Wesley leaving the show, so get ready for a supernatural healing of her bullet to the head.  Additionally, a new character is in town, which is played by Christopher Meloni, from Law & Order.  

Photo Credit: HBO

Kristen Stewart & Charlize Theron Cover Interview Magazine, Open Up About Snow White and the Huntsman

With Snow White and the Huntsman being released this Friday, it would only be appropriate that the movie's two leading ladies, Kristen Stewart and Charlize Theron, would need to cover Interview Magazine. The two came together for an extensive interview with Elvis Mitchell and some drop-dead gorgeous photos by Mikael Jansson.  The two stars chat about what it took to play their roles in Snow White and why females are taking over Hollywood. Read the full interview here.

Photo Credits: Interview Magazine

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Urban Active Fitness Presents: "Is A Calorie Just A Calorie?"

by Josh Bowen of Urban Active Fitness
Love your sweets?
Bad News. All calories are not created equal!
In all of fitness lore, one question stands the test of time; “How do I lose weight?” Well for most of my professional career I believed that if you burned more calories than you took in that you would naturally lose weight. Also, the vice-versa being the case for gaining weight and if you wanted to maintain just keep the score even-steven. I advise clients that this was the sure fire way to lose the weight. Boy was I wrong. This assumption literally made an “ass” out of me. There were two issues with my assumption. First 100 calories of Cheetos and 100 calories of broccoli are not created equal. Your body digests, processes all foods differently. Some are nutrient dense and some are pieces of crap. You make the decision. Second, your endocrine (hormone central) system is what truly determines where your body stores fat. While it is true that athletes, body builders, and individuals with low body fat can manipulate their calorie intake and expenditure to gain a wanted outcome, most people cannot do this efficiently. What we fail to remember is there are fat storing hormones (estrogen, insulin, cortisol) and fat burning hormones (testosterone, growth hormone, IGF-1, glucagon etc.) and these hormones work in conjunction for a desired outcome. If estrogen, insulin and cortisol are present your body will want to hold onto body fat. If testosterone and growth hormone are high your body will wanted to get rid of fat. So this makes staying away from foods that will increase the fat storing hormones and turn off the fat burning hormones that much easier to understand. And debunking the theory of burning X amount of calories will make you lose weight. And if you do lose weight, where will that weight come from; water, muscle? Either or are not what you are truly setting out to do.
The nutrients are different and the responses on the body’s endocrine system are different. Eating sugar will have more impact on Insulin versus eating green leafy vegetables regardless of how many calories each is made up of. A study done at Princeton ( found that rats that ate more high fructose corn syrup in the same amount of calories as rats that didn’t gain more weight. Suggesting that a calorie is not calorie. For athletes, bodybuilders and individuals with low body fat percentage and high fat free mass, calories in versus calories will work. For those with hormonal imbalances and high body fat percentages, more than likely this method will not work.
If it were truly about calories in versus calories out then it would not matter how much crap you ate. However, what gets lost in translation is the components of the foods we eat. Our bodies were never designed to digest milk, today’s whole grain and table sugar. For most, eating these and then digesting these nutrients is difficult. These often cause multiple hormonal reactions that cause us to retain and even gain body fat and excess weight. Works for bodybuilders not for an overfat client.
This is JB signing out, once again debunking all the fitness myths.
 Yours in Fitness,
Josh Bowen will be joining Style & Wisdom every Monday for the next few weeks for a series of blog posts about obtaining maximum fitness results.  Josh Bowen has been the Quality Control Director of Personal Training at Urban Active Fitness since 2007 and has trained and directed 400 trainers in 7 states.  Josh has certified trainers, proctored hundreds of seminars and conference calls, and contributed to ten published articles about fitness.  His mission is to spread the word of fitness to as many people as he can through personal training with a motto of "train, motivate, and inspire!" For more useful tips from Josh Bowen, you can find daily posts from him on Urban Active's blog.   

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Friday, May 25, 2012

Hollywood Glams Up For amfAR Gala, Cannes Film Festival

Heidi Klum
Heidi Klum wearing a GORGEOUS, but totally transparent, Marchesa dress.
Every year, during the Cannes Film Festival, the amfAR (American Foundation for AIDS Research) Cinema Against AIDS Gala takes place. This year, Hollywood came out to support this cause by dressing up and donating money at the Hotel du Cap-Eden-Roc in Antibes, France. In fact, the crowd in attendance scraped together over $11 million, which is the highest in the history of the amfAR gala. Stars like Gerard Butler, Heidi Klum, Karl Lagerfeld, Kim Kardashian, Nina Dobrev, Janet Jackson, and Kirsten Dunst made an appearance, dressed to impress.  While this event wasn't particularly focused on fashion, some of the gowns were amazing (like, more-amazing-than-the-Met-Gala amazing). A surprising trend being seen among the ladies is: the Angelina Jolie leg? Yes, you read that last sentence correctly.  That wretched leg is popping up everywhere, despite how much we hate it.
The 2012 amfAR Gala during the 65th annual Cannes Film Festival.
Kim Kardashian flaunts a yellow mustard Ellie Saab gown, the Angelina Jolie leg,
and old Hollywood makeup.
The 2012 amfAR Gala during the 65th annual Cannes Film Festival.
Kirsten Dunst, who has been said to avoid the red carpet as much as
possible, came out looking wonderful in none other than Louis Vuitton.
The 2012 amfAR Gala during the 65th annual Cannes Film Festival.
Carine Roitfeld and Karl Lagerfeld attend the amfAR Cinema Against
AIDS Gala in Antibes, France.
Nina Dobrev - Celebs at the amfAR Gala
Nina Dobrev might be gearing up to show her character, Elena's transition from human to vampire in the next season of The Vampire Diaries, but until then, it looks like she is taking some time off in France, wearing gorgeous Ellie Saab gowns.
The 2012 amfAR Gala during the 65th annual Cannes Film Festival.
Milla Jojovich in a futuristic Atelier Versace gown.

Photos: of Heidi (US Weekly) all other photos (Zimbio)

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Beauty Spotlight: Lavanila Roller Ball Perfume

by Sarah Davis

Lavanila Healthy Fragrance Roller Ball in Vanilla Coconut
I've been on the hunt for a great roller ball perfume to keep in my bag for traveling and even to conveniently use during my work day.  I was thrilled to find Lavanila's all natural and organic Healthy Fragrance Roller Ball in Vanilla Coconut, because it smells like a warm summer night.  Vanilla Coconut is so perfect for the Summer months and according to the company, is one of their most popular scents.

I had heard of this company because of their Healthy Deodorant, which if you aren't familiar with, is really nice and is completely organic.  It's a great alternative to regular deodorant, which can contain a lot of unhealthy ingredients. Everything this company offers, from sunblock to perfume, is organic and natural.  The scents, like the vanilla coconut, are really rich, whereas some of scents offered by organic companies offer scents that aren't that inviting (i.e. very bland or hippie-chick inspired).  
TIP: Ladies, did you know that studies show that the top scent that guys love on girls is vanilla?  

For more on Lavanila, visit

Photo Credit: Lavanila

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

This Video Made My Day (Hint: It's By Marie Forleo)

On a personal note, I have been struggling with something that most of you will struggle with at some point when working: competition.  Or, people who are out there doing the same thing as you and are offering the same stuff.  Unfortunately, writing is hard because while direct plagiarism might be totally illegal, no one can stop other people from writing about the same thing as you. They can even steal your tone of voice and your demographic. It's all legal, it's all legit, you just have to learn how to bring your A-game when being different and offering the best product (whatever it may be) to the table.  This happens to everyone who starts to succeed, so while it makes you feel like your brain is chilling in a blender (that is on, going full speed), you need to sit down, relax, and focus on how to make yourself stand out (or even, continue to stand out). What I want to say about this subject is that whenever you start to grow, you tend to forget about what you started with, because you might feel like you don't need it anymore, but that is what made you stand out in the first place, whatever that may be.  After all, if everyone is trying to compete with you, that initial something must have been pretty amazing.

This morning, I woke up with all of this on my mind and in my inbox, was this video from Marie Forleo, who is basically a goddess when it comes to down-to-earth business advice.  So, I will share her video with all of you, in the hopes that it shines a little light on this topic of standing out and resonates with you somehow, if you are going through something similar.  I just thought it was an amazing life moment that demonstrated how connected we all are, because this video came to me, whether or not Marie knew about it, at the same exact time that I needed it.  That is why I love the advice-business and how fast you can share your words with people all over the world through technology and social media: because the Universe has this way of delivering it to the right people who need it.  


For more on Marie Forleo, visit or keep up with her at  

Best Dressed At Cannes Film Festival: Diane Kruger

It's safe to say that one of the best dressed ladies at the 2012 Cannes Film Festival is Diane Kruger, who has been seen in more than one amazing dress.  Whether she's posing alone or next to beau Joshua Jackson, she makes everything she wears look incredible. In the above photo, Diane is wearing Versace (right) and a seafoam green gown by Giambattista Valli Couture (left). 

This sheer lace gown by Jason Wu is nothing short of exquisite. 
Actress Diane Kruger and Actor Joshua Jackson attend the 65th Anniversary Party at the Agora May 21, 2012 in Cannes, France.
Diane Kruger in a Vivienne Westwood sequinned gown.

Diane Kruger and Joshua Jackson attend the premiere of Killing Them Softly

Photo Credits: PopSugar, FabSugar, & US Weekly

Monday, May 21, 2012

Urban Active Fitness Presents: "Fitness Through My Eyes"

by Josh Bowen of Urban Active Fitness

I want to warn everyone that reads this: if you are not open minded and are stubborn about changing the way you view exercise and nutrition please stop reading now. What I mean by this is these are 17 facts that I have learned through 8 years as a personal trainer and coach and 15 years of personal workouts. Some of these I have learned the hard way and others are as clear as day but all are a list of facts that will help you achieve your goals (as long as you choose to accept it.)
  1. Steady State Cardio will not get YOU Results- I see it everyday, gym goers check in the gym and immediately head for the treadmill or elliptical. If you asked them what their goals were they would say body fat loss, increased muscle tone and weight loss. OK? Why are you heading for the treadmill then? Take a U-Turn and head for the weight section. And yes I am talking to you, all of you! Big, tall, skinny, small I don’t care we all need to spend some quality time with the weights. Period. Next!
  2. Resistance Training will boost your Results- A continuation of number 1. All shapes and sizes should be picking up resistance training. Increased; metabolism, decreased osteoporosis, feel better and look better. What else do you need? Nothing that’s what.
  3. The Word “Tone” Does not Exist- So stop saying it. In muscle anatomy and kinesiology there is not term muscle “tone.” When you use this term you mean less fat and more muscle or “lean.” Let’s lose this term please.
  4. Static Stretching is a Waste of Time- Don’t stretch, warm-up. Doing the old school 1980’s Jane Fonda stretching routine is not going to make you more flexible andits not going to decrease chance of injury. Instead of bending over and touching your toes, get on a foam roller and roll your hamstrings out. Instead of stretching your hip flexors, do some explosive reverse lunges to a knee tuck. Stop stretching, thank you.
  5. Bananas are not the only food in the Universe that have potassium- quite the contrary there are better foods, with less sugar that has plenty of potassium. Broccoli, kiwis, and sweet potatoes, just to name a few, are packed with high amounts of potassium. Bananas have too much sugar, so eat apples or kiwis instead.
  6. Squat, Everyone- Everyone should squat regardless of what your doctor tells you, if you can’t squat you can’t use the toilet. Think about that. Enough said.
  7. Deadlift, Everyone- “Dead lifts are for men.” Oh yeah? Have you ever picked a box off the ground? You just did a deadlift. Dead lifts are great for developing posterior strength (you need that mister I sit at a desk all day) and are a great overall body developer. Do them but do them right!
  8. Stop Swinging the Dumbbell Around in an Attempt to Warm Your Shoulder- This doesn’t need much explanation but I see people do this all the time and it’s dumb. Your rotator cuff muscles are as thin as paper and applying this type of circular motion with added resistance is bad news. Just stop it!
  9. Perform Multi-Joint Movements- if your goal is decreased bodyfat, increased strength and better overall bodies start squatting, deadlifting, pressing, and swinging. If you goal is to be a body builder and you want bigger arms, continue doing bicep curls.
  10. Walking Does not Count As Exercise- Humans were made to walk, we are blessed with great mobility and the ability to run, sprint and walk. You cannot count walking around the block as vigorous exercise. You can do that with your eyes closed, try doing something more difficult. Maybe add a vest!
  11. Less Crunches and More Planks- You want to work your core? Try doing more planks and concentrate on extending the amount of time you can hold it. Try doingless crunches, they are a waste of your time and bad for your lumbar spine.
  12. Doing Abs will NOT give you a 6 Pack- Still flabbergasted that people believe this. Proper diet and nutrition coupled with great genetics and discipline is what gives people the 6 pack. Not crunches. Next.
  13. Do More Pushups- One of the best exercises, period. Shoulders over hands, core and quads tight, head, shoulders, hips and ankles in a straight line. If you can’t do them, start doing them against a wall and progress from there.
  14. Supplements are not the End All Be All- Supplements are just that, supplements for foods you can’t or do not get through food. They will not cure the world and will not give you the body of your dreams. Supplement when necessary. A few of my favorites; whey isolate protein, Branch Chain Amino Acids, Glutamine and Omega 3 fatty acids.
  15. If you Sorta Eat Right, You Will Sorta Look Right- Want to look your best, eat your best. Next
  16. Proper Form Rules All- Do not sacrifice weight for proper form. Learn how to squat/deadlift/press correctly. Stop bouncing and making trainers cringe. It will catch up to you one day. 
  17. Lift then Run- Lifting weights prior to cardio will burn twice as much fat as doing it in the reverse. A study showed men that did resistance training prior to doing 30 minutes of cardio burned a 100% more bodyfat than those that did the exact opposite.

Now you guys tell me which ones you want me to expound or defend. I’m ready, trust me.
Yours in Fitness,


Josh Bowen will be joining Style & Wisdom every Monday for the next few weeks for a series of blog posts about obtaining maximum fitness results.  Josh Bowen has been the Quality Control Director of Personal Training at Urban Active Fitness since 2007 and has trained and directed 400 trainers in 7 states.  Josh has certified trainers, proctored hundreds of seminars and conference calls, and contributed to ten published articles about fitness.  His mission is to spread the word of fitness to as many people as he can through personal training with a motto of "train, motivate, and inspire!" For more useful tips from Josh Bowen, you can find daily posts from him on Urban Active's blog.     

Photo Credit: Women's Health

Friday, May 18, 2012

Why You Need To Tell The Universe EXACTLY What You Want (and exactly what you're not okay with)

by Sarah Davis

If you want something, ask for it. 

Some of the best spiritual advice that I've ever absorbed is to either be hot or cold, but never lukewarm.  Because when you are lukewarm, you aren't standing firmly anywhere, you are lingering.  When you don't know what you want, how will you ever get it? 

Okay, let's put this topic into perspective, if you are a little lost.  Imagine yourself standing at the counter at Starbucks.  The barista has just asked you what you would like to order and you stand there, lukewarm.  Your response is, "Oh, I don't know. Just give me whatever you think I deserve."  In theory, the Universe (or the barista) might give you something you like, but she  or he might also give you some of the worst bullshit coffee you've ever had.  

Whenever you are praying, it's important to have an order ready for God.  If you have no ambition to do anything and each day, you say to the Universe, "Oh, I'll just take whatever comes along", you will get whatever comes along.  If you are familiar with The Secret (or now The Power and The Magic), the main idea of these books is visualizing exactly what you want and manifesting it to happen.  Knowing exactly what you want is SO important in life.  If you don't know, you need some idea of what you want.  There are so many currents in life, not all positive, that can sweep you away if you are lukewarm in what you want.  

Some of us might think, "God knows me" so something good will come along because God just knows.  However, I think God wants you to be passionate in what you want. I know that in my own life, I write every day.  It's the only thing that makes me feel like a complete human being some days.  If I don't actively study other literature, do boring things like skim the thesaurus with my morning coffee, and write every day, I can't really expect God to reward me as a writer.  That's me, clearly shouting to the Universe, that I am a writer and I will do what it takes to be a good one.  If I were to wake up and say, "Eh, it would be okay to become a writer one day, but I probably wouldn't succeed anyway so I'll try to write something in a few years" get my drift, right? God didn't create you to be a lukewarm person who is afraid to speak up, he created you to be passionate about something.  

I think this topic is especially important for women, because women tend to not always feel as entitled to speak up and clearly say what they want.  Women tend to think that if they pursue the things they want, it's selfish or it is silly because there is someone else out there who deserves it more.  However, think about yourself at Starbucks, once again.  You are a paying customer who is entitled to anything on the menu, as long as you have the money for it.  In life, you are a paying customer.  You are alive, so you have the currency you need, and if you do not clearly ask for the things you want, you might not get them.  This is true of work, relationships, and on a deeper note, like I've mentioned above, in prayer and spirituality.  You need to be clear about what it is you're after.

Another issue that being hot or cold directly relates to is clearly saying NO to things you know do not belong in your life.  If you are lukewarm to highly negative and destructive things, they WILL weed their way into your life, which can harm you.  

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Stars Step Out For The 2012 Cannes Film Festival

The 65th Annual Cannes Film Festival began yesterday and critics are buzzing about the films being premiered this year. One of the most anticipated films this year is "Cosmopolis", starring Robert Pattinson, but each of the films are getting a substantial amount of praise, including "Rust & Bone" and "Moonrise Kingdom"(which have already premiered). Alongside the creative talent being recognized, is of course, the fashion. So far, some of the most stunning gowns were worn by Jane Fonda, Lana Del Rey, Eva Longoria, and Jessica Chastain. 

Lana Del Rey at the opening ceremony of the 65th Annual Cannes Film Festival wearing Alberta Ferretti.

Eva Longoria at the premiere of "Moonrise Kingdom" by Wes Anderson wearing Marchesa
Jessica Chastain at the premiere of "Moonrise Kingdom" by Wes Anderson wearing Alexander McQueen

Photo Credits: Getty Images, Global Grind, and People

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Los Angeles Premiere: What To Expect When You're Expecting

Brooklyn Decker, Elizabeth Banks, Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez, and Anna Kendrick attend the Los
Angeles Premiere of What To Expect When You're Expecting on Monday, May 14, 2012

With one of the most star-studded casts around, What To Expect When You're Expecting premiered last night in Hollywood at Grauman's Chinese Theater.  Stars in attendance included Jennifer Lopez, Cameron Diaz, Anna Kendrick, Brooklyn Decker, Elizabeth Banks, Chace Crawford, and Matthew Morrison.  The movie is set to be released on May 18, which as it happens, is the same release date as Battleship, which also stars Brooklyn Decker.  

 Image Credit: Getty Images/Hollywood Reporter

The Cast Of What To Expect When You're Expecting Covers Redbook

What To Expect When You're Expecting is in theaters May 18 and the female stars all came together to cover the June issue of Redbook.  In the issue, Jennifer Lopez, Cameron Diaz, Elizabeth Banks, Anna Kendrick, and Brooklyn Decker dish on the movie and how they personally relate to the topic of motherhood.  Here are a few highlights from what they had to say: 

Cameron Diaz on the pressure to have kids: "I'm sure a lot of people would expect that I would have had a child by my age. But it's not what I've wanted out of my life thus far. We still live in a largely chauvinistic world. There's a box people put themselves in, and when you [live] outside of it, that makes them uncomfortable--they have to look at themselves and question their own choices."

Jennifer Lopez on her daily life as a mother: 
"My sanctuary is my bathtub. That's really the only time I get to myself. It's usually around 15 or 20 minutes, but for me, those minutes are like heaven on earth. Sometimes I even say a little prayer while I'm in there. I'm like, 'Lord, help me get through this day!'"

Elizabeth Banks on if there is a right time to be pregnant: 
"I definitely don't think [you have to wait for] a right time. I mean: Why wait? The Chinese believe that if you have a baby, what you want comes together even better. You just do it, and make it work."

Photo Credits: Ruven Afanador/Redbook Magazine

Monday, May 14, 2012

How To Embrace Your Fears In Order To Grow

by Sarah Davis 

There is no easy way to grow as a human being.  No matter how easy some people make growth look, it requires challenging yourself and placing yourself in new situations that you often don't know if you'll succeed in. Often times, these situations can be terrifying or just really uncomfortable. (Think, how terrified you are before skydiving and how amazing you feel afterwards). As you really begin to grow, you can see that your fear isn't a burden, it's actually a way to pinpoint where your biggest opportunities lie. I have personally heard a lot of self-help gurus say this, but it never made a lot of sense until I actually started doing it (doing things that I was scared of in order for me to grow and in order for my blog to grow.)

People say that succeeding in life involves luck, but really, it involves one thing.  Facing your fear.  Many, many people have everything they need to be successful: a great degree, a family with connections, a way with words, a talent that is extraordinary, etc.  But, if they never have the guts to put those talents out there, it doesn't really matter. I grew up around a lot of people with money.  I never had a lot of money, I never went to an Ivy-League school, but I knew a lot of people who did.  For a LONG time, I would think, "You can really do anything if you have a lot of money." But, I can honestly say now (from an enlightened state of mind), that you can really do anything if you are willing to face your fears.  Money is just another circumstance that might or might not help you be successful, but it does not guarantee it.   

As some of you might know, I struggled with anxiety when I was younger and tried to avoid public speaking in every capacity because it scared me (because I had a speech disorder when I was younger and didn't want ANYONE to think I was anything less than perfect).  I thought there was some other way around growing beyond this, other than actually learning how to speak up.  I was scared to make important phone calls, I didn't want to go to class (in college), I didn't want to do anything because all of it required speaking.  I would never challenge myself and I found myself very frustrated because when I avoided all things that scared me, I avoided everything good about life and I felt dead on the inside. 

Even as I got over my speech disorder and anxiety disorder, I learned that I was still scared to do the things that scared me before.  I just did all of it, even if I was scared. many doors opened. Now, I have to do so much speaking and so much on my own that I don't know how I ever thought I could get through life without it.  But, the value of learning that I had to push myself into these situations is something that we all have to face. When I sat down to write a book about my own speech disorder struggles, it was this moment where I realized that opening up about it was the biggest fear I had in life and here I was using it to potentially be my life's work. 

I never wanted to accept that I couldn't live my life like everyone else did, so I overcompensated in my writing. Once people began to tell me I was good at writing, it gave me the confidence to stand up to my own fears of public speaking.  And, once I began pushing through my own fears, so many doors began to open and continue to open to this current day.  Where your fear is, your opportunity is.  You have to push on through, even though you're aware you're scared.  Everyone has something that sets them back.  Other people might not understand it, but it's there.  Everyone has a journey that requires overcoming some fear.  

Maybe you're not afraid of public speaking, maybe you're afraid of dating, or even doing something like going to see a movie alone, or doing anything alone. No matter who you are, there is probably something that you want to do and something that you think is holding you back. It's important to challenge yourself to remind yourself that in fact, nothing is setting you back. It's only your fears.  If you're not feeling scared often enough, maybe it's time to start doing more challenging things. Remember, challenging yourself is how you grow. It might even be something little, but if it is challenging you, it is a good thing. 

The next time you feel scared, smile because you're not weak, you're growing.  And remember, a successful individual is someone who faces their fear, it is never someone who has NO fear.  They might even have more fears than you, they have just faced more of them.  

Photo Credit: Here

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Justin Timberlake and Estee Stanley Launch HomeMint

Justin Timberlake recently launched HomeMint, the home decor addition of the BeachMint family with his personal interior designer, Estee Stanley.  Stanley has designed all of Timberlake's homes and the two admit they work well together.  Surprisingly enough, HomeMint is full of amazing finds, with items in the price range of $10 to $10,000.  Like each of the BeachMint shopping sites, you will be required to pay a monthly fee in order to have access to the HomeMint website.  

Photo Credit: HomeMint

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Met Gala 2012: Best Dresses

Beyonce Knowles in Givenchy
Chloe Sevigny in Miu Miu
Elizabeth Banks in Mary Katrantzou
Diane Kruger in Prada
Karolina Kurkova in Rachel Zoe (This is my favorite of the night)
January Jones in Versace
Sarah Jessica Parker in Valentino
Leighton Meester in Marchesa
Sofia Vergara in Marchesa
Gwyneth Paltrow in Prada

Photo Credits: Glamour, US

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Your Dating Dilemmas, Solved By A Guy.

by Sarah Davis

We all do it. We overanalyze situations that guys probably don't.  Okay, we know they don't overanalyze as much as we do. While we're going over and over it in our minds, with our girlfriends, and even with complete strangers, we rarely just ask the guy.  After all, he's the one you're obsessing over.  But, if you don't feel like asking the guy, this is the blog for you.  Today, we're asking a guy for his input on all of your most common dating dilemmas.  In the spotlight, Lee Terbosic (we interviewed him a few months back) is stepping up to the plate with some honest responses.  Lee is a 29 year old self-made comedy magician who is based out of Pittsburgh.  A young entrepreneur? Of course, ladies, we wouldn't have a "scrub" answer your questions.  Let's jump right into it.  

Dilemma #1: "I always catch myself talking about my ex and sometimes, I even compare my current boyfriend with an old boyfriend.  I feel like a guy should be confident enough to not be bothered by this, but do you think he is?"
Lee: No new guy ever wants to hear about an old boyfriend ever. We would never want to be compared or referenced to him at any point. Its not that were are not confident to hear about it’s because if your bringing him up to often we are going to get the wrong idea and think your not over him and we are going to look elsewhere. 

Dilemma #2: "If I have feelings for a guy, should I go ahead and tell him or wait for him to do so? Will it freak him out if I tell him, even though he always flirts with me and has taken me out a few times.  Should I just wait around for him to make a move?"
Lee: It's ok to hint to a guy that you have feelings just no big speeches or "I love you"’s to soon. If a guy is showing you he is very interested, it's nice to know its not all for nothing and that you feel a connection as well. Go about it in simply ways until the timing is right or he lets you know. Guys are just as nervous to show our vulnerability for fear of rejection or saying the wrong thing too soon also.

Dilemma #3: "If a guy wants to be with me, won't he "make it happen"? If he isn't around, does that mean he doesn't like me? Or, is he just thinking about things."
Lee: Every guy is a little bit different about these things but if a guy is taking time out of his busy day to talk to you or catch up with you about things he is clearly interested and is in the market for something more. This is were you have to read through the BS and decide if what he is offering is what you want.  He could be offering  romance, could just be friendship, maybe just a hook up and some cases it could be all three. Guys live by a set of rules and when bro codes come into play things can get tricky for us. If a guy has made an attempt to be around but isn't that doesn't mean he not interested just means you have to let him slid that one time but if he is a no show more than twice or you don't hear from him for weeks  it just means he is not interested for romance and is putting something else first. A guy that is really interested will put the one he wants to be with first and everything else second, he will drop a game with the guys or beers with his buds to put in the one on one time if he serious about you....ohh and if he only hits you up after midnight its just for a hook up, so don't get attached....because we might think that all you want as well.

Dilemma #4: "Sometimes I'm a little hard on my boyfriend and I criticize him a lot.  Does he care or is he more sensitive than he lets on?"
Lee: We can be sensitive at times and it just comes down to what its about. It’s better to pick your battles because we will remember, and we will be the first to criticize back if you do it to often. All guys want a woman that doesn't start nothing fights and is constructive with their criticism so next time try to offer something positive along with the negative. Plus if we already had a bad day hearing it from the one you love can just make it way worse. Also if you can criticize in a funny or playful way you might avoid fights a lot more often.
Dilemma #5: "I have a great career and I make more money than the guy I am dating.  I often talk about my job because it is a big part of my life and I find that he gets frustrated when I do so.  Should I have to censor myself just because I have a career that I love?"
Lee: I don't think you should censor yourself but if its causing problems maybe only give the important facts and keep the smaller one’s to yourself. Some guys can be embarrassed that his girl makes more and when that's the case, talks about bonuses and job perks can be annoying. Some guys are happy with the jobs they have and its not about making 10 million dollars but just simply doing something that makes you happy and also being with someone that gives you that same feeling. So talks of trips, free cell phones and fancy dinners sometimes shouldn't be all the topics of your work conversations, so try sprinkling in other things. 

Dilemma #6: "I love to go out on the weekends with my girlfriends, but not always with my boyfriend.  Why does this bother him and why I should I change my life just to make him happy?"
Lee: I personally like when a girl has her own friends and does her own thing from time to time. I hate having to be the one that plans out her weekend or feel bad when I want my guy time. If this does bother him it just means he does not trust you or your friends. He either feels threatened by another guy that you know or fears he could lose you. The way this could be handled is invite him out every so often so he can see first hand there is nothing to worry about or stay in contact during the night and want to meet up after the night is over. Its the simply things that put a mans mind at ease. We just want to know your not being shady and the more the trust grows the less it will be a big deal to go out with the girls. 
Dilemma #7: "I have always wanted to get married and have babies.  I feel like guys should know this about me when we start dating because that is where I want my life to go.  Why don't guys like to know that I am headed in this direction?"
Lee: This is definitely an important conversation and I would say you should be honest and talk about these things in the first few dates, so to not waste anyone's time but that could also send him running. Guys generally don't want to hear about that stuff because it then puts a timeline of the relationship, adds pressure and also what if his answers are not the same. I would say 90% of guys want the same things but its just a matter of timing for them. I personally want to be married and have kids but there is a time table in every guys mind about this stuff and if we are both are way off and neither is willing to compromise then its best to look elsewhere. Guys will always be stubborn about these things because we never want to feel pressured to have to do something. We want to pop the question because we want to not because you want us to. You best strategy is instead of telling what you want, ask what he wants in the early dates and if you can live with his answers then you will know if he is a keeper or not. 
 Dilemma #8: "I tend to hide things about myself (that play a huge role in my life) when dating because I am insecure about them.  But, it's always been my impression that guys don't even care to know everything about the girl they are dating.  Do I need to be 100% open with him or should I not tell him things that might make him think I'm less attractive in some way?"
Lee: This just comes down to what it is. If its something super major and could be a game changer you should be upfront with this information sooner than later and let him decide if something he is ok with. Hiding something that he is going to find out anyway is always bad for business and could make it worse, so being upfront might get you further. If its something serious plan a night and look for a opportunity to be honest and transparent he will be more open to it and more likely accepting. 
Dilemma #9: "I have feelings for a good guy friend of mine.  I want to take it to the next level, but I don't want to mess up our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way. What should I do?"
Lee: If you want to get out of the friend zone you have to be willing to go for it and also willing to lose what you already have. If he does not feel the same way and you lose him as a friend because you were honest with him about your feeling then he was not that great of a friend to begin with. A real friend would just let you down easy and not let that affect the friendship as whole, and who knows he could of been thinking the same thing all along about you. Be brave taking chances is what life is all about.

 Dilemma #10: "I am addicted to checking my boyfriend's FB page.  A lot of girls text him, message him, and write on his wall.  I know it's silly, but it makes me angry.  It always makes me think he might be cheating on me. Should I lighten up or should I take this as a "redflag" in our relationship?"
Lee: This is tricky situation because these days being social and on social media sites is what everyone does and your reaction to these things could be a bad sign to him. First things first if your checking his page and seeing lots of things that are red flags then its obvious you don't trust him and if he has given you reason to not trust him, I think its time for you to move on. Who want to worry all the time? The second approach is just to simply ask…not annoy or do anything shady just simply ask…who knows you could be worrying about his cousin or long lost friend. Also if your just dating a guy you can't get mad until you have the "the talk" about what you both are and then see if he opens up about who these people are. You might be surprised, they then someday could wind up in your wedding party.

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